The greatest of these is love…

Karren of beautifully states the thoughts and experience of those of us living with mental illness when we choose to become parents.


“Aren’t you afraid he will get your disease?”

The question uttered by a colleague at a department picnic this past summer when I was still working as a college instructor. This colleague had known me for a few years. She had known me when I was still adamantly not going to have children. She knew of my diagnoses. And this was the first time she had seen me since giving birth. This was the first time she met my son who had just turned one year old.

And this was the question; a question about my fear of passing on my psychiatric illnesses. Not a question concerning the million other things that happens with new motherhood- a question of genetic loading.

I wanted to respond with my sarcastic self and give a blank stare and state, “why no, I never thought about that.”

Seriously, I waited until thirty-six to entertain…

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One thought on “The greatest of these is love…

  1. Just Plain Ol' Vic August 30, 2014 / 4:36 pm

    I really dislike it when people say you are being “selfish” because you have a {insert number here} % chance if bringing a child into the world with {insert issue/disease} here.

    If you want to have a child for the right reasons, love is never selfish. As you said, nothing is set in stone with genetics, it is the biggest roll of the dice.

    However if we ever get to the point that we can remove all harmful genetic markers (like in the movie Gattica) then I think we risk losing our greatest asset, our humanity in all its infinite variety.

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