When prejudice isn’t real

We must be careful not to assume the worst, not to project our own fears and insecurities onto others. Read this thoughtful blog post from Laura Droege about her experience miscontruing another mother’s demeanor and behavior, assuming the other mother was prejudiced against Laura due to Laura’s openness about her bipolar diagnosis:
“Sometimes, it really is prejudice against me.
And sometimes, it’s not about me at all.”

Laura Droege's blog

Once upon a time, I met a woman who didn’t like me. I thought she didn’t like me, at least. She never smiled at me, rarely spoke to me, and generally didn’t seem thrilled at my presence in our Sunday school class.

Obviously, she didn’t like me.

Obviously, there was something wrong with me for her to dislike me.

I racked my brain for what was wrong. Had I offended her? Was I too honest about my bipolar disorder? Was I too quiet or awkward or— too something, some defect without a name and therefore without a solution?

Years passed. I shrugged it off. There were other people in the church who did like me, despite this nameless defect, and I consoled myself with their friendship.

One year I had this woman’s child in my VBS pre-k small group. The woman (I’ll call her Anna) pulled me aside on the…

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7 thoughts on “When prejudice isn’t real

    • Kitt O'Malley October 21, 2014 / 12:50 pm

      Thank you for nominating me. I am flattered, but I no longer accept awards.


  1. amommasview October 20, 2014 / 10:59 pm

    Thanks for sharing this post. And as I said in my comment on Laura’s blog post: Even if you are not suffering from anything you feel the same way sometimes. At least I do. And it is a great reminder to take that step back and analyze if it is really about you.

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    • Kitt O'Malley October 20, 2014 / 11:39 pm

      Without a doubt, Laura’s quite wise in this piece. She writes very thoughtfully.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. dyane October 20, 2014 / 1:17 pm

    Wait a minute…you mean, it’s not ALL about ME????
    p.s. I wrote a slightly more pithy comment on Laura’s blog!

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