Choices, Choices

Peering over my glasses as I ponder my choices
Peering over my glasses as I ponder my choices

 

Okay, so maybe this isn’t the proper forum to be weighing pros and cons of volunteer opportunities. So far I’ve shadowed two MHA (Mental Health Association of Orange County) Hearing Advocates to three different hospitals over two Fridays. Last Friday I was sick, and the Hearing Advocate I had hoped to shadow never called.

(I’m using the term patient, not consumer, in this post since I’m talking about hospitals. I consider myself both a consumer of mental health services and a patient of my mental health providers.)

The hospital nearest my home also happens to be the nicest of the three at which I trained. I mean, how many hospital psych wards have ocean views? I do not know if the program is as good as it was a decade ago when I was voluntarily admitted. I was inpatient for two weeks and partially hospitalized for a few months until the program got repetitive. Back then the hospital was under different ownership and their program was highly respected and highly structured. Patients were not allowed to mill about and loiter. You were in group, actively participating, or you were to stay in your room. During breaks and in the evening, we could enjoy the break room, watch TV, and “walk the circuit” since the bedrooms were arranged in a semi-circle with offices in the center. The layout enabled fluid movement, as opposed to walking up and down halls with locked doors at either end, which results in rather unsettling and caged pacing.

I do not know the details of the programs at the three hospitals where I trained. I do know that I felt uncomfortable at the two I visited on my last Friday of shadowing. Patients seemed like they were wandering about without much structure. Perhaps it was too close to lunch time, but many of the patients seemed either too symptomatic or unresponsive to participate in structured group activities. I sensed that at any time, someone could go off and chaos would ensue. (Actually, I witnessed chaos at both hospitals in response to decisions made by the Hearing Officer. Decisions that were clearly well-founded.) Needless to say, I didn’t feel particularly safe, nor did I feel welcome. There, I said it. A couple of patients saw us as part of the system that “imprisoned” them. Honestly, I was at a loss. The Hearing Officer does not want to release someone if they might turn around and kill themselves or hurt someone else. The decisions Hearing Officers make are difficult. They must balance the right to personal freedom against the need to protect. When we (those of us living with serious mental illness) are dangerously symptomatic, we cannot think clearly, and we do not always behave in our best interest, or in the best interest of others.

My other volunteer options rest with NAMI Orange County where I interviewed this morning. They have several volunteer opportunities I may enjoy and for which I may be well suited. I could be trained to be a Peer teacher for their Peer-to-Peer Recovery Education Course. I could be trained to be an In Our Own Voice speaker. I could volunteer at special events by sitting at their table, handing out information, and answering questions. I could even volunteer in their office doing clerical work. I would NOT do all of these activities. That would be WAY too much. Both the Peer-to-Peer Recovery Educator and In Our Own Voice public speaking require training, which I greatly appreciate and need. I am impressed with NAMI’s structured training programs.

I NEED structure. Perceived risk of chaos and danger trigger me. I do not need that in my life. In writing this, I’m pretty sure I have made up my mind. I cannot handle being a Hearing Advocate right now. Truth be told, I respect people who are highly motivated to seek treatment and am at a loss about how to best help those with serious mental illnesses (brain disorders) who refuse help, whether due to their symptoms, or because they reject the medical model outright. I do understand not wanting to stay in a hospital in which your personal freedom is severely limited and in which you feel punished rather than healed. I am 100% behind improving our mental health system, including making psychiatric hospitals hospitable, healing and safe for patients, their visitors, their advocates, and their mental health providers.

17 thoughts on “Choices, Choices

  1. mihrank October 31, 2014 / 9:39 pm

    I am glad you were successful consider your options, that’s wonderful. I hope more volunteers to attend and make change. My mother was reading over your post, and she has a deeper understanding and meaning to your post. I wish you the best to accomplish your message.

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    • Kitt O'Malley November 1, 2014 / 11:01 am

      Thank you so much Mihrank. I am honored that you share my posts with your mother, not just because she is your mother, but because she is a medical doctor. God bless you both.

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      • mihrank November 1, 2014 / 11:16 am

        Thank you Kitt for your warm comments – You share important and essential topics needs our support and encouragement. May God Bless you:)

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  2. dyane October 31, 2014 / 5:32 pm

    You already know my two (make that ten!) cents regarding your choice. I was honestly relieved when I read this post….it truly felt like the right direction for you! Like I know everything, right? Honestly, I’m better at knowing what others should do rather than what is best for yours truly! 😉 Thanks again for a wonderful talk the other day – sorry to keep you on the line so long. I’ll be writing about what we discussed next week! It’ll feel good to pare down, blog/like/comment-wise. For now. XO

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    • Kitt O'Malley October 31, 2014 / 9:07 pm

      Now I need to take my own advice as to limiting social media involvement. Thanks for your ear and your support.

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  3. writerwannabe763 October 30, 2014 / 7:52 pm

    It’s good that you recognize what would not be good for you…. I’m sure that whatever you do decide to do, will go well… You are one motivated lady…. Diane

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  4. Sandy Sue October 30, 2014 / 3:12 am

    I absolutely agree with your decision to forego the Hearing Advocate position. I had some of the same issues with my position as a paid Peer. It’s hard enough to be useful to people who want help and want to try doing things differently. While I know lack of insight is part of mental illness, I found myself out of patience with folks who refused to budge from their unhealthy and often dangerous ways. To have clients actively confrontational or belligerent would be far beyond my tolerance on every level.

    Keep researching your options. You owe it to yourself to make informed decisions about how to volunteer.

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    • Kitt O'Malley October 30, 2014 / 7:58 am

      Thank you, Sandy Sue. I agree. I’ve always been a highly motivated consumer, seeking therapy since I was 18. I did not want to hurt myself. I wanted to be healthier.

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  5. lbeth1950 October 29, 2014 / 7:02 pm

    I don’t know enough about mental health issues to comment I am here to listen and learn. Your blog is very insightful.

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    • Kitt O'Malley October 29, 2014 / 9:17 pm

      Thank you. You do have much to offer in terms of life experience, having survived severe depression while raising a family lovingly and successfully.

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  6. stockdalewolfe October 29, 2014 / 6:21 pm

    Your two choice sound right for you from what I know of you. Advocate is too challenging in a bad way. We have to accept our limitations. I think whatever you do, you’ll be great because you are smart enough to make the right choice.

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    • Kitt O'Malley October 29, 2014 / 9:16 pm

      Thank you. I just hate to back out (though I have a history of doing just that, getting in over my head, then having to bow out). I keep everyone up to date.

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  7. Bradley October 29, 2014 / 5:41 pm

    I’m glad you looked at your options and was able to conclude one was not for you. If you’re like me, it’s hard to accept something I can not do. ” What do you mean? Other people do it so why can’t I?”

    I just recently dropped quite a few volunteer hours I was working each week. The obligation to be there and do the things which must be done was too difficult for me. It felt like a job, not volunteer work. I’m glad I made the choice I did, but it was awfully humbling.

    Best of luck to you with NAMi. I’m sure whatever you decide to do, you’ll do just fine.

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