#NOMORE Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault

Today I received the following email from the NOMORE Project. When I was in my mid-twenties I worked as an administrator for a battered woman’s shelter after volunteering on their crisis line. My exposure to domestic violence left me with a passion to end it. I haven’t worked in the social services field for over twenty years – in fact, my career in commercial real estate lasted twice as long – but my passion remains. #NOMORE Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault. Please support the NOMORE campaign. The only change I made to the copyrighted email I received was to remove my email address from it; otherwise, I copied the content verbatim.

NO MORE

Thanks Friend —

We’re so thankful that you decided to stand up and say #NOMORE to domestic violence and sexual assault.

You’re a critical part of a powerful movement to end domestic violence and sexual assault.

So what can I do to help?

Silence and lack of knowledge about these issues play a large part in why they persist. Help us change that.

First, learn about these issues so you can recognize the signs of abuse and feel comfortable discussing domestic violence and sexual assault with your friends and family.

Second, learn how to better respond to help a child, teen, or adult who may be experiencing domestic violence, dating abuse, or sexual assault.

Of course if you see, hear, or suspect that someone is in immediate danger, call 911 immediately.

Then, see what you can do in your life to help end the violence.

1. KNOW MORE & TALK ABOUT THESE ISSUES OPENLY

WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

A pattern of abusive and threatening actions used to exert power and control over an intimate dating partner or spouse. Domestic violence includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, stalking, emotional and psychological abuse, and financial control.

It may also include:

  • Physical abuse or the threat of abuse of the victim, children, or pets
  • Rigidly controlling finances/withholding money
  • Sabotaging a partner’s job by making them miss work, calling them constantly at work, etc.
  • Verbal insults that humiliate a partner
  • Threatening to out the partner’s sexual orientation
  • Telling partner who he/she can or can’t hang out with, text or be Facebook friends with
  • Stealing or insisting on having passwords
  • Isolating victim from family and friends

WHAT IS SEXUAL ASSAULT?

Any unwanted sexual activity without consent, including rape, incest, sexual harassment, and molestation. Consent is the presence of a clear yes (not the absence of a no). Sexual assault perpetrators are motivated by the need to control, humiliate, and harm their victims.

Sexual assault may also involve:

  • Exposing/flashing in person or sending unsolicited explicit pictures
  • Forcing a person to pose for sexual pictures
  • Not allowing sexual partner to use birth control or be protected from STD’s
  • Engaging in non-consensual sexual activity, ranging from taking explicit pictures, unwanted sexual touching above or under clothing to engaging in intercourse, with someone drugged, drunk, unconscious, sleeping, etc.
  • Coerced sexual acts by a boss, higher-ranking officer, teacher, or other authority figure

Learn more about these issues here.

2. KNOW WHERE TO GO FOR HELP

If you or someone you know needs help or has questions, please contact the appropriate resources below:

3. LEARN HOW TO PREVENT VIOLENCE

Everyone can play an active role in stopping domestic violence and sexual assault before it occurs by helping to establish an environment where healthy and positive relationships are based on respect, safety, and equality. Taking steps to stop harassment or violence can make a significant difference in someone’s life, and send a powerful message to society that violence is not acceptable.

4. MAKE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS & PREVENTION A PRIORITY YEAR-ROUND

NO MORE’s birthday is coming up! Help us engage every individual, organization, and corporation in the national effort to make domestic violence and sexual assault awareness and prevention a priority year-round during NO MORE Week, Ma‌rch 8Ma‌rch 14. Learn how you can get involved here.

Stay tuned for more information — but for now, thank you so much for joining the movement to end domestic violence and sexual assault.

Talk soon,

The NO MORE Team

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New Yo‌rk, NY 100‌10

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9 thoughts on “#NOMORE Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault

  1. Zoe February 7, 2015 / 9:37 pm

    As a survivor of domestic violence, this is so important. I wish I had known about all these things while I was going through it all. Thanks for always sharing these resources with us!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. jennakahn94 February 7, 2015 / 5:59 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing this information all in one place. I really appreciate it.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Kitt O'Malley February 7, 2015 / 6:03 pm

      You are welcome. When I get great emails, I just feel the need to share the information.

      Like

  3. asewalson February 7, 2015 / 3:24 pm

    Great information here! Thank you so much for sharing this.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. amaryllisturman February 7, 2015 / 2:29 pm

    There is a similar campaign where I live called “No more lies, no more bruises”. Sad to say that this is much needed.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Kitt O'Malley February 7, 2015 / 5:58 pm

      Wonderful that such a campaign exists. It is truly tragic that such campaigns are necessary, that such crimes happen, but I find hope in the fact that people do care and are doing something about it.

      Like

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