How I’ve Been Grieving Lately

Sisters Kayaking
My sister and me kayaking at Suttle Lake, OR

Before my father passed away, I planned to attend the Sunriver Writers’ Summit. Unfortunately, the summit followed only a month after his death, and I felt too raw to attend.

Social gatherings overwhelm and exhaust me and can trigger mood cycling, first hypomania as I get overstimulated and later a need to recover which looks like depression.

Now’s not the time. Now’s the time to spend with family. Visiting my mother and taking her out to lunch, which she enjoys. Seeing my sister, for we both deeply miss our father. So, instead of attending the writers’ summit, I visited Oregon with my husband and spent time with my sister and extended family.

We left our almost 18-year old son home alone, forcing him to forage a well-stocked refrigerator and freezer by himself. He managed to stay alive. Step in the right direction. (Got to encourage independent living skills before he goes out on his own.)

24 thoughts on “How I’ve Been Grieving Lately

  1. teri647 June 4, 2018 / 6:10 am

    Hi, Kitt,

    I must admit I am not good at coping will loss, particularly when someone I know loses someone close. I never know what to say. Sometimes I think that I need to have a better plan of what I will say. Being Christian, I think I should have a better grasp on it. Should I say,” he’s in a better place now,” or “I’ll pray for you.” I know everyone grieves differently and there is no “right answer.”

    A couple thoughts that have helped me along my own journey:

    ~ Loss happens to every person. I will someday die and leave my children. I am blessed to have had so much time to spend with them. Any of us could die at any moment. We are not always given time to prepare or say goodbye, but It’s inevitable that we will all die. Making the best of our time here is the best we can do. Know it’s brief and appreciate every minute whether it be with loved ones or awaiting their return.

    ~ There is always something on this planet that is not perfect, which tells me there is a place that is perfect and it’s waiting for us in eternity. We are only here for a very short time, compared to all the time in the universe. There must be something God is holding on to for us that is perfect.

    Find Peace, Show Love. Know you are not alone.

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  2. Paladin June 3, 2018 / 5:11 pm

    đź‘Ť Good wisdom in your choice to drop the Writer’s Summit, Kitt. Like your kayak paddling photo
    for I can feel the waves.

      God Bless + Take Care !!!
    

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