Grieving --
Geometry art created with iOrnament app.

Grieving, not depressed. No bipolar depression. No depressive thought process. Just grief. Just a deep overwhelming feeling of loss. 

I miss my father. Miss him deeply and dearly.

Going to individual therapy and taking my medications for bipolar disorder, but now may be time for additional support, time for a grief support group, preferrably one led by an excellent licensed mental health professional.

As a licensed clinician, I have a bias. I need a group leader with advanced clinical knowledge of serious mental illness like bipolar disorder, as well as grief. As someone with bipolar disorder and a history of depression, I’m at risk of complicated grief.

Not only did my father recently die, my mother is a stroke survivor living with vascular dementia. She lives in memory care, but wants me to visit more often than I can afford to emotionally.

Squeezed between generations, I cheer my newly adult son as he takes steps to overcome social anxiety and manage his migraines. Until he gets his driver’s license, I chauffeur him to and from specialists appointments.

Rather than spend all my time and energy caring for the needs of others, I must care for myself. My personal boundaries are poor. Groups overwhelm me. I take care of others, not myself. Find myself overstimulated and become mildly hypomanic. Perform, rather than sit, listen and accept help from others.

Always a been performer, love being onstage, enjoy public speaking. Now’s not the time to be the center of attention, to be right, to be smart, to solve problems, to be the hero.

My brain isn’t functioning at its best. Grief-related brain fog. Can’t concentrate. Can’t remember. Simply overwhelmed emotionally. Often, I can’t even come up with a simple word to answer a question my husband asks. Cannot make a yes or no decision.

Today I deleted emails of great content I would usually share as a mental health advocate. I leave that to others for now.

Now, I grieve. Now I cocoon. Now I draw mandalas and patterns using iOrnament. Now I do jigsaw puzzles on my iPad. Now I watch TV.

Now, I cry softly, sometimes gently sob, for the father I love and miss.

25 thoughts on “Grieving

  1. Kruti Barot January 7, 2019 / 10:56 am

    I lost my father two months back and it has been a nightmare. He was my everything.
    He was the most amazing person I have ever met.
    I find a lot of strength in thinking and feeling that he is watching over me. And trust me, your father is watching over you too. Every moment! He wants nothing but your happiness.
    Please feel free to reach out to me.
    You are not alone and we will get through this!

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    • Kitt O'Malley January 12, 2019 / 12:07 pm

      I send you my deepest felt condolences for the loss of your beloved father. Thank you. God bless.


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  4. heatherjo86 November 8, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    My condolences to you and your family for your loss. I recently lost my dear grandmother and it took me some time to get back to functioning normally. I had this overwhelming sense of guilt that I was still alive and she wasn’t. I look forward to the time when we’ll see and embrace our loved ones again in Paradise (Luke 23:43, John 5:28,29). Here’s an article with practical suggestions for dealing with grief:

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  5. lisakunk October 28, 2018 / 9:06 pm

    I’m sorry to hear of your loss and all that you are going through. It sounds like you are well aware of what to expect and what you need to do. That puts you way ahead of the game. Grief is a huge challenge. Your wisdom and heart seem to be leading you toward the help you need.

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