First of all I hope and pray that I am able to emotionally support my husband as he experiences grief, having lost his oldest brother last week to lung cancer. Grief, anxiety, and the fear of loss is what prompted me to begin writing this blog back in September 2013.
My husband benefitted from visiting his brother before he died. He was able to spend time with him and to come to terms with his imminent death.
DO NOT SMOKE. Please take care of your lungs.
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[…] death of Melissa brought forth defended feelings of grief over the loss of my brother-in-law to lung cancer. My psychologist asked me if I’m afraid of losing my son. I responded I don’t think […]
Kemme had directly quoted this entire article as a comment to my post about Not Smoking. Odd, for my post did not address treatment resistant bipolar disorder. For those of you who may be interested in the article, I deleted the lengthy comment and left a link to the original source material.
(((hugs))) So sorry for your loss of your beloved Granny.
My friend….I already shared with you how smoking cigs caused the deaths of both my grandmothers. It was totally heartbreaking to watch my beloved Granny die from lung cancer….I’ve only tried one cigarette when I was 13 and found it gross, thank God. No smoking ever!!!!!!! XOOX
Kitt, thanks for the link. That jives with an article I read several years ago. What little I recall is that a study indicated combat veterans with PTSD had a much harder time quitting smoking. I’m not a combat vet, but as I’ve indicated, I do have some mental health issues. But one important thing I take away from this type of research is that people shouldn’t be seen as “weak”, nor should they be judged for a delay in their ability to quit smoking successfully, but rather focus on methods that will lead to eventual success.
Thank you for offering condolences. I am so sorry that you lost your father to emphysema even though he quit smoking. Tragic loss.
My Dad died from Emphysema in 1999, yet he gave up smoking in the early 1970’s when he and Mum simply bet each other they could not give up. So sorry for the loss of your borther in law.
I am so sorry that you lost your brother to lung cancer at 57. That was the age of my husband’s brother, as well. Too young to die. Much too young.
Thank you, Ellen. Very much.
Thank you for your belief in my ability to lovingly support my husband and for reminding me to love myself, as well.
I am so very sorry that you lost your uncle/father-figure to lung cancer. (((hugs))) Tragic loss.
Thank you for your condolences.
Thank you. Aside from your smoking, you are doing a great job taking care of yourself. There is an unusually high <a href=”http://www2.nami.org/Content/NavigationMenu/Hearts_and_Minds/Smoking_Cessation/Smoking_and_Mental_Illness.htm” target=_blank”>correlation between smoking and mental illness. 44.3% cigarettes in US are consumed by those with mental illness or other substance abuse issues.
So sorry for your losses secondary to poor lung health. I, too, have asthma. Thank you for your condolencees.
Thank you, Trish.
Kitt, After my brother died of lung cancer at 57, the father of three adopted children, I want to rip the cigarette out of everyone’s mouth I see smoking. I don’t, of course, but it pains me. Tony has been gone for almost four years and I miss him ever day. You know your parents are going to die but not a sibling and not so young.
I am sure you will be a great comfort to your husband but take care of yourself, too. You won’t be able to help if you are aiking, too. God bless you, Ellen
You can and will support him. And you must also take care of yourself.
There are so many of us that have lost someone close to lung cancer. For me it was a close family friend who meant more to me than my father. A very dear father to his own children and a life traveller to his wife. My aunt (his wife) wrote this beautiful poem for his service and the title was “My Life Traveller”. I send loving and comforting thoughts to you and your husband. <3
Quitting smoking often comes to the forefront of my mind. Your post is a good reinforcement. Thank you.
I began meditating six years ago, and hoped that would help me cope with nicotine withdrawal, which is especially hard for me because I already deal with major depression, generalized anxiety disorder, and insufficient coping/stress management skills.
I restarted individual therapy for mental health issues last January, and joined a DBT group. I was first introduced to CBT 20 years ago, but as I learn more about DBT, I get a strong sense it may help fill in some gaps.
It’s great that your husband had the opportunity to see his brother. I’ve lost some people in the last six years that I never had the opportunity to say goodbye to. It’s always better to be able to say goodbye and express feelings and appreciation about loved ones before they leave the Earth.
My condolences on your loss.
Thank you for a touching and frank post. Prayers and condolences to you, your husband and family. I know the pain and sorrow that years of smoking can cause. I lost a dear friend last month to lung cancer and my mother passed away 20 years ago today from it. My father passed away 3 years ago from complications of COPD (the same as Leonard Nimoy). I quit 30+ years ago when I was diagnosed with asthma and am also a “candidate” for COPD. {{{{{hugs}}}}}.
Great Message!
I’m sorry for your loss…hug hubby for me.
That just breaks my heart.
Thank you.
Thanks Kitt… I was never the same after my daddy died…I was a daddy’s girl
So sorry. Losses on both sides. It is true that you can die of lung cancer without ever having smoked. Clearly, smoking puts one at greater risk. I send my condolences to both you and your husband for your losses.
Check out the American Lung Association link. See if their program helps. My father quit by using hypnotherapy. Just remembered. Guess I could mention it in the blog post…
I am so sorry that you lost your father at such a young age. That was no doubt incredibly traumatic for you. Tragic.
Thank you so much. I’m sorry for your family’s loss as well. Your message is an important one. Great post.
Prayers for comfort and healing for both of you. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry, Georgette.
Thank you.
Prayers for you and your family! I lost my grandfather to lung cancer, and my hubbie lost his father to it as well. His father did not smoke!
Hello Kitt! I know it has been a hard time for you and your husband. I too have lost a close one to lung cancer; my father. I was 17yrs old and I believe that is the trauma that made my bipolar show its ugly head. Kitt I am thinking of you and your family. Prayers to you…and thank you for the awareness of what smoking does…it kills. However, I am guilty of such a nasty cigarette addiction.
I lost an aunt to lung cancer last year. So young. Heart breaking.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours (((hugs)))
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