At age 30, Kitt O’Malley moved in with her parents after treatment for debilitating depression resulted in psychotic mania which left her unable to do her work as a licensed marriage and family therapist. She left her career aspirations behind, and she started seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist who treated her for what was still thought to be chronic depression.
So when the guy she was dating said “You’re the most independent woman I’ve ever met,” Kitt couldn’t help but laugh. She had never been more dependent in her life, but he didn’t see those circumstances or her mental illness. He saw her, and that in itself was a small miracle…
“Everything’s gonna be okay.
(Except when it’s not.)
((Except that’s okay, too.))”
I think it is human nature to ascribe or find meaning to events in our lives. Sometimes platitudes makes us feel better. Sometimes worse.
My Invented Platitude
Nothing is always true, except when it is.
The Platitudes I Use Regularly
You are loved.
You are worthy of love.
You are not alone.
Yet, at the same time, I can feel both so very alone and so very much a part of everything.
Which leads me to…
Another Invented Platitude
We are both alone and connected.
Even as I share my thoughts and feelings through words, I protect a part of myself, and do not let anyone completely in. No one really knows what it feels like to be me, but when I find others who seem to understand, something magic happens. I feel loved, supported, accepted. That feels good. That is what we do, what we can do, what we should do, for one another.
I love Stephen Fry, and I love his response. Why not the Greek gods? I really have no idea if divinity really exists. I do know that it is very human to look for and attribute meaning. Meaning is what I seek. Meaning is what I find. Whether or not that meaning really exists? I do not know. I question. I seek.
Now it’s your turn: What do YOU think? Please be respectful of others’ beliefs. This is a safe, loving place. Everyone needs and is due LOVE, COMPASSION, and RESPECT.
“Existential psychologist and Holocaust survivor Victor Frankl (1959), learned through his own direct experience of severe torture, suffering, and loss, that part of the essence of the human experience is our capacity to find meaning in living through tragedy. He said, ‘In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds meaning’ (p. 113).”
– Walker Karraa, PhD, Transformed by Postpartum Depression: Women’s Stories of Trauma and Growth, http://ow.ly/HA4OL