South Orange County – No Way

Transcript

I never in my life thought that I would be living in South Orange County, California. Grew up in the South Bay. I moved a lot. Lived overseas. Lived on the East Coast.

But, a lot of my life was spent in the South Bay LA, and even that, Hermosa Beach, I found to be conformist. I would go with my friends to North Hollywood, not North Hollywood, but to Hollywood to, you know, go to clubs. And, we would go to West LA to see foreign films. And, you know, we were the artsy fartsy, liberal, whatever, progressives.

And, I just never would have considered it. The only reason to go to Orange County, I thought, was to go to Disneyland or Knott’s Berry Farm.

Live there? Oh, my gosh, why would you do that? And, here I am living in Mission Viejo, and I like it. It’s, of course, I’m at a different place and time in my life. I’m a mom, a stay-at-home mom with a son. This is a good place to raise a kid. There are lots of resources available. Um. And, there’s physical beauty. We have mountains. We have parks. We have beaches. It’s beautiful.

I’m not into the every house looking the same, and the whole homeowners’ association conformity, and all that kind of stuff. Yeah, not my thing. But, I can tolerate it.

My neighbors are basically just middle class families with middle class values raising their kids the best that they can and wanting the best for their families. I, too, that’s where I am in my life.

As a young adult could I have lived here? Never. I would haved died of boredom. I fled to the Bay Area where I felt more at home.

But my life is different now. And, I’m married to a fairly conservative man. And, I like that. I like his conservative values, that he won’t stray. He values marriage and monogamy. And, he values me, his son. He’s a good father, a good provider.

And I’m playing the role of a stay-at-home mom. Also something I never could really see myself doing, but God kind of made it so I had to stay home. Brought me down to my knees with an illness that made it difficult for me to jug [juggle] family and career. Made it difficult for me to take care of myself.

So, here I am, on disability, taking care of my kid, doing my best. Even that can be overwhelming. There have been times when I couldn’t even get up the motivation to make dinner. My husband would pick up take-out on his way home. Plenty of times he still does that. But there were times when I really just couldn’t cope.

Parenting is challenging. I parent a challenging child, and I’m wife to a challenging husband. Life can be hard. Anyway. That’s my drivel for now. Ciao.

#IAmStigmaFree #namiocwalker

October 10th my husband and I are walking the 5K NAMIWalks Orange County 2015 with team STIGMA SMASHERS. NAMI Orange County has been instrumental in my mental health recovery. Please visit NAMIWalks.NAMI.org/KittOMalley to sponsor me. Thank you!

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Stigma Smashers (Telecare Wit)

Will you be in Orange County on October 10th?
Join our NAMIWalks team:

STIGMA SMASHERS

William R. Mason Park
18712 University Drive
Irvine, CA 92612

Registration begins 8:00 am
Walk begins 10:00 am

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NAMIwalk_small

NAMIWalks provides NAMI Orange County with 1/3 of their operating budget, enabling them to offer free mental health educational programs, meetings and support groups.

NAMI’s Peer-to-Peer course introduced me to the concept of mental health recovery and gave me HOPE. Though I don’t currently practice as a psychotherapist, I reclaimed my training and identity as a former mental health professional when I took their Provider Education course.

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NAMIWalks Orange County 2015 follows on the heels of The Gathering on Mental Health and the Church, which runs October 7-9 at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, CA. I attended the conference last year and plan to volunteer for NAMI at the conference this year. Speakers this year include Thomas Insel, Director of National Institute of Mental Health, and Patrick Kennedy, Founder of the Kennedy Forum and Co-Founder of One Mind. Great conference!

Kitt O’Malley – STIGMA SMASHER – NAMIWalks 2015

October 10th my husband and I are walking the 5K NAMIWalks Orange County 2015 with team STIGMA SMASHERS. NAMI Orange County has been instrumental in my mental health recovery. Please visit NAMIWalks.NAMI.org/KittOMalley to sponsor me. Thank you!

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Stigma Smashers (Telecare Wit)

Will you be in Orange County on October 10th?
Join our NAMIWalks team:

STIGMA SMASHERS

William R. Mason Park
18712 University Drive
Irvine, CA 92612

Registration begins 8:00 am
Walk begins 10:00 am

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NAMIwalk_small

NAMIWalks provides NAMI Orange County with 1/3 of their operating budget, enabling them to offer free mental health educational programs, meetings and support groups.

NAMI’s Peer-to-Peer course introduced me to the concept of mental health recovery and gave me HOPE. Though I don’t currently practice as a psychotherapist, I reclaimed my training and identity as a former mental health professional when I took their Provider Education course.

***

NAMIWalks Orange County 2015 follows on the heels of The Gathering on Mental Health and the Church, which runs October 7-9 at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, CA. I attended the conference last year and plan to volunteer for NAMI at the conference this year. Speakers this year include Thomas Insel, Director of National Institute of Mental Health, and Patrick Kennedy, Founder of the Kennedy Forum and Co-Founder of One Mind. Great conference!

Taking a Step Forward

Took a Step Forward Today

Today I took a step forward. I went to my psychiatrist. He adjusted my medications, putting me back on a low dose of escitalopram. Monday, we see a psychologist with our son to get some coaching on negotiating our battles and setting some reasonable boundaries.

Called NAMI Orange County’s Warm Line and briefly talked to a mentor. Looked into going to Orange County’s Wellness Center, which offers all kinds of support and activities, but I’m just not up to making the twenty-mile drive to the City of Orange. Maybe tomorrow I will actually drive up to The Wellness Center – then again, maybe not. I actually think that I may be sick, physically ill, which is exacerbating my depressive symptoms.

Yesterday I both called and emailed Saddleback Church, which offers support groups and is very close to my home. The main problem I have with Saddleback is that I’m very liberal – theologically liberal, socially liberal, and politically liberal. Saddleback is not.

Just got a call from the nurse’s office at my son’s school. Had to go and get him. He has a headache and feels sick, nauseated. Honestly, I feel pretty run down myself. And, so it goes…

Taking it one step at a time.